COMMENTARY
The
optimistic view: 'Get over it and be nice'
Kara Hodge
Lately I have
run across two qualities that seem to be lacking in the human race
Ñ honesty and niceness.
People are not
so nice anymore and they are not so honest. I know I'm not perfect
in these two areas, but I feel like the issue needs to be addressed.
First, the quality
of honesty. Why is it lacking? Why do we feel the need to lie or
stretch the truth?
We have all
lied about little things like if we are late for something important
or if we have done something stupid, but why do we lie about things
that don't need to be lied about? Why are we so afraid of the truth?
I think we lie
because we're afraid of how we feel and we're afraid to take responsibility
for our actions. There have been too many instances in my own life
where a roommate or a friend has lied to me because they are afraid
that what they feel Ñ anger or sadness or whatever Ñ isn't important
or relevant to me or the problem at hand.
And I know
that we have all lied to someone simply to spare our pride. I've
done something wrong (intentional or not) and lied about it to save
my butt too many times to count.
My point is,
don't throw out the truth just so you can look good or spare yourself
some humility. Everyone makes mistakes and most people at one time
in their life are afraid of what they feel.
Secondly, the
quality of niceness. Where has it gone? People aren't nice or even
polite anymore. Sadly, I have gotten used to the door not being
held open by the person in front of me, being cut off in traffic
(and given certain hand gestures) and had rude things said by total
strangers.
I know that
we all have bad days. I know that there are times in my own life
when I want to tell the world to you-know-what, but that doesn't
make it right for me to treat people badly.
Yes, life isn't
fair and it doesn't work out the way we want it to. We have all
been hurt by circumstances and those we are close to and we have
all had hard times, but being bitter and mean about it will not
make it go away.
Why are we mean
to people? Why have we forgotten the importance of being polite?
I think we're
mean to others because we are either threatened by them in some
way or because we are afraid of them. We are mean because we forget
that people have feelings. Other people need forgiveness as much
as we do and because we are hurt ourselves at times.
My roommate
has a saying that we try to live by in our apartment Ñ "Get over
it and be nice." If I get my feelings hurt or get pissed, I try
to just forgive that person and be nice to them.
Surprisingly,
it works. And I'm sure you're thinking (like I do sometimes when
I'm angry), "Well, what I deserve is for that person to get on their
knees and beg for my forgiveness!" or "I'm right and they are wrong
and I will not bend!" Get over your burning desire to always be
right. Get over the fact that you want to make the person feel as
bad as you do. It won't do any good.
There is no
excuse for being mean. My co-workers at call me "the optimist."
I just think life would be easier if, in our society, we started
helping each other out a little more.
It could start
with two qualities that go hand in hand Ñ honesty and niceness.
Our
Perspective ...
Let
SGA focus on campus issues rather than federal issues
The aftermath
of a failed attempt by several Student Government Association (SGA)
Senators and a handful of student organizations to pass a resolution
of support for Section 484 of the Higher Education Act of 1965 has
produced a bevy of controversy.
The defeated
side fell three votes shy of having the Appalachian SGA join other
student governmental bodies across the nation in calling for the
repeal of a federal law prohibiting convicted drug offenders from
obtaining federal financial aid.
Those in favor
of the resolution, including members of the Appalachian chapters
of the NAACP and ACLU as well as the Hemp Club, have a long list
of reasons why Section 484 should be repealed, and have told The
Appalachian they intend to reintroduce the resolution at tonight's
Senate meeting.
This column
is set aside twice weekly as our outlet to express the collective
opinion of the editorial board. Our opinion?
We still feel
the repeal of Section 484 would be an unwise move. Attempting to
force this piece of legislation through the Senate would be equally
as unwise.
A student governmental
body at a mid-major university such as Appalachian State should
not waste time pursuing the repeal of federal law. The Senate should
deal with issues affecting students on a daily basis on the Appalachian
campus.
Furthermore,
members of the U.S. Congress and their respective staffs spend a
tremendous amount of time and effort researching an issue before
voting on the repeal of a controversial law such as the HEA.
We feel the
respective leaders of the campus organizations and senators responsible
for the resolution must realize the repeal of federal laws have
no place on the agenda of a student governmental body with little
political power on Capitol Hill.
Put bluntly,
a resolution of support is just that. It is a non-policy bill. It
does not repeal any laws, but lends SGA's support to a specific
action.
An idea was
presented to SGA last week. The Senate voted against it.
SGA should be
allowed to focus on issues that are relevant to and attainable by
students at this university instead of clogging the the Senate agenda
with arguments spurred by leaders of special-interest groups.
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