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Thursday, 25 October 2007 |
 Students and locals pack into Boone Saloon Saturday evening as the band Possum Jenkins prepares to play on stage. Photo by Bryan Tarnowski
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by KATIE EASTER
Intern Lifestyles Reporter
College students everywhere are looking to meet other college students.
In a campus filled with eager people, where can a student go to meet the ones that fit their needs and interest?
“I think it’s more about finding the right fit of a place to meet someone,” said Dr. Doris Bazzini, psychology professor and general experimental program director.
According to the department of psychology’s Web site, one of Bazzini’s research interests is romantic attraction.
Bazzini said research on relationships has shown opposites may attract,
but similarities are a better indicator of future success.
Similarities on everything from values and beliefs to common past times are important to have.
“For example, if you meet someone at Legends and you are not into that
scene, but that’s where you met the person, it’s starting off with the
wrong impression,” said Bazzini.
She suggested finding something you are interested in anything from
clubs to sports to religious events, and trying to meet someone there.
Students suggest other locations of finding someone to mingle with.
“Typically I would say parties,” said Melissa K. Rohrer, a sophomore
medicine major. “But in reality, when a bunch of drunk people get
together it’s not exactly the best place to get to know someone for who
they are normally.”
According to “Ten Things You Gotta Know About Your First Year of
College” published by SparksNotes, there are places one should avoid
meeting a potential boyfriend or girlfriend.
The book stated that being intoxicated may break down inhibitions, but it also impairs judgment.
Also, the book suggested only dating a classmate after midterms, so there are only a few weeks of classes left.
The book suggested to take things slow and go out on a few dates before
you commit to that person, and to go into the relationship honestly.
Bazzini said to approach the person of interest from the angle of friendship, and not to appear over eager.
“You have to look like you’ve got it together without being cocky,” Bazzini said.
Sophomore music education major Caryn A. Cozier said, “Don’t tie
yourself down and get so serious about it that you forget why you are
in college - for a career!”
Bazzini said there is no set way to act, but that some non-verbal behaviors may indicate if a person is interested.
Most are characteristically female, like playing with hair and touching the other person.
If a male did these things, he may be seen as odd or aggressive, said Bazzini.
Closed off behaviors include not making eye contact or yawning.
Even a smile could be misinterpreted for interest when in actuality, it’s just friendly.
Bazzini said the most common place for people to go wrong is by looking overly eager.
Again, there are no rules that say call after a day or two, or who should make the call.
“It’s person-dependant, but if it was that simply, we could all do it,” Bazzini said.
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