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Wednesday, 23 April 2008 |
Embrace imperfections, define your worth
I’m not perfect.
I’m irrational, complicated, frustrating and overly analytical. I can be demanding, superficial, clumsy, romantically challenged, and a procrastinator.
I get zits on my chin, I laugh at inappropriate moments and sometimes my femininity outshines my intelligence. I’m independent and self sufficient, but can long for someone to lean on.
I
can speak too loudly and tuck myself away into a corner. I will stumble
and fall, and think too far ahead in the future, and sometimes, I live
in today. I want all the answers to every question I’ve ever thought,
and I want to be pleasantly surprised.
I know I’m not
the easiest person to be around, date, work with or be friends with. I
realize I have flaws –some more present than others, and I work on
areas I think could improve.
I don’t claim to be the ideal of perfection.
And I’m okay with that.
I like that I
don’t look perfect with every strand of hair in a specific place, and
every outfit pressed and coordinated completely correctly. I like how
my life never ceases to be problematical and full of interesting
experiences –all of which I hope happen for a precise purpose.
Even though I
may not be the best, smartest, prettiest, kindest, focused woman to
grace Appalachian’s campus, I know that with imperfections, faults and
all –I’m worthy of respect, love and life.
As a woman, as a
man, as a person –it’s so important to realize your worth. Define what
you will settle for, what isn’t good enough for you and what you
want…and deserve.
Determine who
you want to be and embrace not being able to control other people. You
only have the power to make your own decisions, and walk down the road
you feel fits right under your toes.
You can’t control what other people do, but you can decide how they treat you.
If you don’t
feel respected, loved or like someone is taking your best interest into
consideration, then why be with him or her?
Why make them
part of your life? Part of your time, energy or thought? You deserve
more –without knowing you, I believe you deserve more.
College students
seem to be in pursuit or something –whether it is that unattainable
internship, flawless grade point average, group of best friends,
unblemished body, or seemingly made-for-you lover –we are always
searching, pursuing, progressing.
And in this
sometimes meaningless and dead-end investigation, it’s easy to forget
what we merit, and instead get caught up in trying to be the ideal.
And ideally speaking, being “ideal” isn’t really ideal.
If you are being
someone you’re really not in an effort to prove your worth to someone
else, regardless if it is a boyfriend, gal pal or professor –you aren’t
doing yourself justice.
Or doing your future justice, really.
If you aren’t
developing your personal self, figuring out what makes you happy,
uneasy, confused or scared –you can’t move forward.
You will only remain stagnant, not becoming the ultimate, amazing individual you’re meant to be.
I’m usually a great place for people to poke fun or to criticize.
I’ve accepted this fact and in some ways I’ve embraced it.
Being the butt
of many jokes isn’t always enjoyable –but it’s given me a thicker skin,
and tougher outer shell that hopefully will help me in the very
exciting summer before me.
In all the laughter or amusement of being ridiculed, I’ve found a place to create prosperity, and a chance to grow and mature.
Through these
experiences and the people that come and go in my life, I hope I learn
–and only make myself better because of them.
Defining your
worth, and believing imperfections are rather lovely and enticing
–rather than detrimental, isn’t something that happens overnight.
It takes practice, patience and having the courage to enjoy peace…and gradual progress.
But in the end,
it will make your life so much more fulfilling, and the hard times –or
events that happen out of the wild, unexpected blue less painful, and
more educational.
Perhaps, Marilyn
Monroe said it best, “Imperfection is beauty. Madness is genius. I’d
rather be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.”
Be who you are and don’t stress over what other say, or how they determine your persona.
Say what you feel and encourage opposing or agreeing opinions to arise.
Being
ridiculous, yet still being yourself may seem questionable and
unrealistic –but at the end of the day –or the end of a journey, you
were the fabulous, beautiful and vibrant you.
And that –is nothing less than brilliant.
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